Strapless Strap-on Dildo In’s and Outs

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Strapless Strap-ons Avice: The in’s and Outs of wearable dildos

Strapless strap-on’s are basically strap-ons that are double-ended meaning that an individual can wear one end in their vagina or even anus as they thrust the main dildoed end into their sexual partner. Often made from silicone with either a wearable bulb or contoured hook at one end these wearable ones can be a good option for those who dislike the idea of using a strap-on harness.

This can be a great way to explore strap-on play, from pegging, to vaginal, and more. But, here’s the truth about these sex toys.

An advantage to using a strapless strap-on is that it can be great for those who experience pain in their pubic mound when using a regular strap-on. Many strapless strap-ons also can stimulate the clitoris whilst giving penetrative pleasure at the same time too. However, one issue with strapless strap-ons is that they can be difficult to use for long periods of time. This is due to the pelvic floor tiring quickly from holding the heavy silicone. With thrusting combined with your pelvic floor trying to grip the device, you can find that the surrounding muscles can contradict with the pelvic floor muscles working to their optimal level, so many find that these sex toys slip out mid-use unless a harness is used at the same time. Our bodies aren’t designed to constantly hold our pelvic floor whilst we are doing vigorous movements. This can still have the bonus of avoiding bruising the pubic bone and mound which can happen when using flared-based dildos in a harness, whilst allowing the wearer to experience penetrative pleasure at the same time as their lover.

 

There is a belief that if you can’t hold in a sex toy such as a strapless strap-on that you must have a weak pelvic floor. This is a myth; even those with a strong pelvic floor can struggle holding these devices in for very long.

Sometimes people will try and squeeze their glutes (those big butt muscles) to try and hold in a strapless sex toy and in turn, think this is how to activate their pelvic floor muscles to help hold a sex toy in. However, generally squeezing the glutes will turn the pelvic floor off and sometimes a glute squeezer will tilt the pelvis into an angle which is more likely to allow for strapless strap-on’s to slip out.

With strapless strap-on’s many will have to try and change the mechanics of how they thrust during sex to help keep the sex toy in position. Many people will find they need to hold their legs together to aid keeping the device inside their body whilst thrusting. Some automatically will tilt their pelvis a lot when thrusting rather than thrusting from the lower core, but when someone can thrust using the power for their lower abdominal it is an amazing workout and can lead to better pelvic floor control. These new ways of gyrating the body, can take time to get use to, and exploring new ways to perform positions that you are use to can take time. Where you may be use to having a wider stance in your favourite position you may now find your coordination and balance is off due to having your legs together, and this will take time to get use to, particularly with the added weight of a strapless strap-on. It can be helpful to use position pillows and devices to help reduce the amount of movement needed to keep the sex toy in and control it. Asking your lover to grind against the device will help lot and getting their involvement more can make the experience more pleasurable for all involved.

Even when a person can keep a strapless strap-on inserted for a long time, it can become harder to hold due to how the vagina is self lubricating and simply put, gravity, and wet areas can make things hard to stay inside the body.

With these sex toys you do have the option to use other sex toys alongside them; some may even enjoy wearing a butt plug anally whilst wielding the strap-on in their vagina. This can be enjoyable if you’ve worked out how to use a strapless strap-on with your body, but, it is worth noting that the more inserted weight into your orifices, the more tired your pelvic floor will become. This is something you don’t want to do too often, as over working these muscles can lead to a whole kinetic chain of injuries including pelvic floor dysfunction.

 

As someone moves with a strapless strap-on they can feel the way that their lover’s body is responding to the thrusts and this can make the inserted bulb rock in intensely pleasurable ways. The more stimulation someone receives, the higher chance there is for them to correspond with a climax. Sharing an orgasm with your partner as you strap-on fuck their body can be an amazing experience and connect them in ways they may have never thought they could feel before. There’s a big but here though, orgasm can make the pelvic floor muscles contract wildly that can make a strapless strap-on more likely to pop out post climax. If you’re wanting to keep going after orgasm, this is where having the assistance of a harness can help greatly, meaning that if you’re up for it, you can keep enjoying thrusting your partner for longer.

Strapless strap-on’s can be worn in the anus, giving those with penises a chance to try double penetration when playing with someone with a vagina if using one with the right length. This means someone can explore DP play with their sexual partner, and the strapless-strap-on will respond to how their pelvic floor contracts from penile stimulation throughout play, as it will spasm and contract around the inserted anal part of the strapless strap-on.

There are some brands of strapless strap-on’s that either have chambers where you can insert a small bullet vibrator, or the whole sex toy has a recharagble vibrating option. Rechargeable strap-less strap-on’s can have dual vibrators even, with one in the insertable bulb and another in the main shaft of the device. Technology is advancing where these can even be controlled via remote or app.

These styles of wearable sex toys can be used in gender play or help someone feel as if they have their own penis. This can help live out fantasy play, but also can be used to help someone who is transitioning feel more comfortable in their body during sexual play if they want to experiment with a phallic style one particularly.

There’s one factor that often goes over looked with strapless strap-on’s, and that’s that they can be a great way to self pleasure yourself as the bulb end can act like a handle to help control the shaft in and out of your body. This extra leaver can make it easier to reach your anal sweet spots, where normal dildos may cause wrist ache and strain normally.

Finally, before engaging in any form of strapless strap-on play, make sure you have spoken to your partner prior to the event, as you don’t want them to feel uncomfortable. Consent is sexy and talking about the potentials of exploring a new area of pleasure can greatly help you relax before hand, but also helps you be prepared with anything that may happen during the experience.
Top Tips:

  • Don’t overdo the lube.
  • Make sure your bladder is empty, because seriously it will be uncomfortable otherwise.
  • Don’t worry if it slips out, change position and focus on other forms of sexual play before inserting it again.
  • Use a harness.
  • Don’t force your body to hold the strapless strap-on in longer than what feels natural.
  • For some kegels may help hold a device in, but over doing any exercise can be bad and aiming for too long wielding a strapless strap-on is pushing most bodies beyond their physical capability – overall leading to a weak pelvic floor.
  • If it still doesn’t work by changing position, just simply hold and thrust with your hands – trust me, when in the moment, continuing playing is key rather than stopping, and I doubt your partner will mind.
  • Remember, they’re not just for anal sex and pegging, but can be used for a variety of sexual satisfaction.
  • And talk about it.

My Experience With Strapless Strap-on’s:

Generally, I find ones with a slightly tilted insertable bulb work better for my anatomy. When holding one of these sex toys I find that I sometimes swing them across the room, this is more due to the motion I do, as I become forgetful and can aggressively tilt my pelvis suddenly, turning anything inserted into a torpedo that tries to eject out of my body. Normally kegel balls and devices are fine and I just feel them jolt inside my body – sometimes it’s caused cramps. However, due to the weight of strapless strap-on’s I do find that they fly pretty well across the bed, thankfully it’s entertaining, and sometimes there’s the added element of humor, where it has been a direct hit into my lover (bonus points when it happens to a sub).

When I do manage to get these types of sex toys to work, I do find I grip my inner thighs a lot to help keep the device in place. I can become very tired very quickly.

Strapless Strap-on’s are sex toys I prefer to tease someone with in FemDom scenes or gender role play.

I have pubic symphysis joint dysfunction, and whilst I’ve worked lot’s on physio therapy and biomechanics, but even when I use a strapless strap-on in a harness to help keep the sex toy in I find I can upset it a little bit.

On the odd occasion when my body is OK with it, and I use a strapless strap-on during intimate sex, I find I can become very turned-on by the close contact my pubic mound to my lover’s body as the dildo shaft enters their body. In response to this I just simply flush with arousal and deep desire.

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